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A friend loves at all times. Proverbs 17:17
Friendship is one of God’s greatest treasures. Joyful moments are sweeter with a friend. Hardships are born with greater courage—and even humor—when a friend is at your side. And when tragedy strikes, our friendships often go deeper. But while we were designed for relationships, they aren’t always easy.
Sometimes it’s difficult to know the best way forward—when and how to strengthen a strained friendship or when it’s better to let go. In Friend-Wise, Becky Harling takes us to the fount of wisdom—the Proverbs—to guide us in cultivating stronger relationships with our friends and families.
Becky teaches friendship skills, sharing wisdom on: Loyalty and guarding your heart. Contentment. Vulnerability. Forgiveness. Generosity. Advice. Encouragement. Criticism. Envy. Telling and speaking the truth. Apologizing. Trying to impress. Defensiveness. Strength. Dignity. And much more.
Loaded with stories, each short chapter includes relational truths from Proverbs, a reflective question, and a prayer to carry you through the day. The reader’s heart will be encouraged and uplifted as she discovers the richness of wisdom found in Proverbs and becomes Friend-Wise.
“Friend-Wise is the kind of book we all need right now. With warmth, honesty, and biblical wisdom, Becky Harling offers both encouragement and practical tools for cultivating the friendships our souls long for. I’ve learned so much from Becky about being a great friend both through her words and through the way she lives her life. Whether you’re longing for deeper community, healing from disappointment, or simply wanting to grow as a more intentional, loving friend, this book will be a helpful guide.”
—Crystal Paine, New York Times bestselling author, founder of MoneySavingMom.com and host of the Crystal Paine Show
“Friend-Wise is a comforting, wise, and joy-filled guide for anyone longing to build meaningful, life-giving friendships. Becky Harling writes with a warm and gentle ease, pairing biblical wisdom with practical insight that actually works in real life. This book is a gift to every woman who has ever felt lonely, disconnected, or unsure of where to begin.”
—Jennifer Dukes Lee, author of How to Love Your Morning and Growing Slow
“In an era of fake smiles and quick texts, Becky dares us to show up fully for friendship, without losing our minds or forgetting to laugh. Friend-Wise is packed with practical biblical wisdom and real-life stories to help you cultivate the iron-sharpening-iron relationships your heart actually needs. Becky lives out the principle she teaches—she’s the real deal and a trusted voice on friendship.”
—Jenny Randle, ministry founder of the Holy Spirit Ministry Center and multi-published author, including The Promised Presence
“Friend-Wise isn’t a book you read once; it’s a book you reference repeatedly. The short, topical chapters helped me identify my relational blind spots, then gave me actionable ways to pursue measurable growth in those areas. I’m getting copies for my friends so we can read it together!”
—Lisa Anderson, Director of Young Adults at Focus on the Family; author of The Dating Manifesto
“With warmth, wisdom, and grace, Becky invites readers to cultivate the kind of friendships our hearts long for—authentic, life-giving, and rooted in godly love. Through personal stories, biblical truth, and practical guidance, she helps us deepen our connection with God and one another. Every woman longing for richer relationships will be refreshed and encouraged by this book.”
—Rachael Adams, author of Everyday Prayers for Love and host of The Love Offering Podcast
“Like a strong cup of coffee in a favorite mug, Becky offers us a strong dose of courage for our friendships with the much-needed touch of gentleness. It’s obvious this spills over from her time and rich friendship with Jesus, who offers us the truth we need with the grace we must have to be able to receive it. When it’s so easy to focus on the other person in friendship, Becky leads us to focus on ourselves, surrendering our thoughts and cares to Christ through the authority of Scripture. These words God has given her were healing for me, bringing me clarity and wisdom while the Holy Spirit led me to the conviction and confessions awaiting me as I dared look within. The prayers help us as we move forward, becoming the godly friends we are called to be!”
—Candace Cofer, author, speaker, host of the Good Day podcast
“In Friend-Wise, Becky Harling poignantly blends scriptural wisdom with heartfelt honesty, offering an evergreen guide for anyone longing for deeper, healthier friendships. Her words feel like warm coffee with a trusted friend—grace-filled, applicable, and real. Every chapter invites readers to pause, reflect, and pursue relationships that mirror the love and wisdom of Christ. This book isn’t just about friendship; it’s about becoming the kind of friend our hearts were made to be.”
—Amber Ginter Johnson, teacher-turned-author, speaker, mental health advocate, and host of the Authentically Amber Podcast