Counseling Men opens the way for men to discuss and discover their fears and losses in conversation with clergy, pastoral counselors, and lay caregivers.
“An even simpler technique is to offer sound-bites, such as. If that were happening to me, I would feel _____. Is that how you are feeling?” (Page 16)
“Patriarchy has traditionally promoted misogyny and homophobia—the hatred of things believed to be imitative of women” (Page 14)
“Most men have been trained in their families of origin to suppress deeply their feelings and emotions” (Page 13)
“First, formal counseling is often conducted in a language that men have been conditioned to reject” (Page 15)
“Men who have begun to value their own inner world are sometimes called soft men.” (Page 13)
Counseling Men aims to help concerned men achieve a clearer identity in the whirlwind of change that is occurring in family and relationship structures. Philip Culbertson addresses the radical disparity between the stereotypes of how men are portrayed in our society and how they actually live their lives, between the media's macho, superhero, all-controlling, fantastic lovers and the fearful cogs in the wheel of today's impersonal business world, mortgaged to the hilt and worried about career and the responsibilities of providing for his family. . . Throughout, I found myself agreeing and demurring, but always being engaged by Culbertson's formulations. His ideas will provoke and comfort, sensitize and humanize those who take seriously the changing world in which men find themselves. An important resource for those seeking to minister to men.
—Harold W. Stone