As we begin the 21st century, we live in cultures which have rejected biblical ethics and, inevitably, we are paying the price in our families. In the United Kingdom alone it is reckoned that divorce costs the state £3.4 billion a year, and that is before you consider the social implications. With a wealth of pastoral experience, Frank Retief helps us traverse this dangerous territory with a practical, biblical and compassionate approach.
“Marriage is a matter of commitment and if one party abandons that commitment, there is not much hope.” (Page 29)
“How can a marriage work if there is no repentance and commitment?” (Page 32)
“‘Unlike marriage, divorce is a human institution.’ Did you see the importance of that? Marriage is instituted by God. It is part of His will and plan for our happiness. Divorce was not instituted but is regulated by Him. In other words, God acknowledges the existence of divorce.” (Page 135)
“Remember that behind every divorce there is human sin. God not only hates divorce; He hates the sin that causes divorce. Not every divorce is sinful. Rather, the party perpetrating the events that occasion the divorce is accountable to God.” (Page 136)
“A refusal to engage in discussion, reasoning and meaningful argument about the situation in the home, effectively closes the door to reconciliation.” (Page 67)
This is not an exhaustive book delving into the minutiae of textual argument. People with marriage problems don’t usually reach for such books! What makes this book virtually unique is that it is addressed to the ordinary person. It is eminently readable and biblically reliable. In my opinion it is and will remain a classic of pastoral theology . . . .
—Dr. Tony Sargent