She's Got the Wrong Guy: Why Smart Women Settle

by Deepak Reju

Publisher:

New Growth Press

, 2017

Overview

The control freak. The angry man. The lazy guy. The unteachable guy. The promiscuous man. The unbeliever. The lone ranger. The unchurched guy. The new convert. The commitment-phobe.

For any woman who has struggled with failed relationships, this may seem like a familiar list. These are the men your friends and family have in mind when they think, “she’s with the wrong guy.” And while the reasons women choose these types of men are complicated and varied, ultimately, they will all let you down.

In She’s Got the Wrong Guy, Deepak Reju offers a different kind of dating book, discussing the types of guys women should not marry and offering biblical reasons why they aren’t suitable spouses. Writing from his years of experience as a pastor and counselor, Reju shares with women his perspective on how to assess a relationship’s strengths from the beginning, how to identify possible pitfalls, and how to have the courage to wait for a relationship that will be a blessing for both of you. Using stories that single women can relate to and highlighting contemporary issues in the modern world of dating, Reju gives readers clear, biblical direction on how to have positive, life-giving relationships with members of the opposite sex.

With a strong, Christ-centered focus, women will better understand why they “settle” for less than what God intends for their romantic relationships and learn to put their hopes and find their happiness in Jesus, not marriage.

This Christian outlook on modern day relationship troubles will help you to understand why even smart, Christian women settle, what sort of man to look out for, gaining the strength from God to breakup bad relationships, why waiting is ok and how God helps you and more. She’s Got The Wrong Guy is a must read to give you guidance from God to help you find a gospel focused man.

Key Features

• Discusses the types of guys women should not marry
• Offers biblical reasons why certain types of guys aren’t suitable spouses
• Teaches how to assess a relationship’s strengths from the beginning and how to identify possible pitfalls

Contents

Part 1: From Problems to Faith

• Same People, New Problems
• Smart Women Settle
• Why Do Smart Women Settle?
• A New Direction—Living by Faith in Your Relationships

Part 2: Am I Dating the Wrong Guy?

• The Control Freak
• The Promiscuous Guy
• The Unchurched Guy
• The New Convert
• The Unbeliever
• The Angry Man
• The Lone Ranger
• The Commitment-Phobic Man
• The Passive Man
• The Unteachable Guy

Part 3: The Quest for a Godly Man

• Breaking Up for the Glory of God
• In Pursuit of a Real Christian Man
• Why Waiting Is Okay
• Grace for Today

Praise for She’s Got the Wrong Guy

As a biblical counselor and a woman who didn’t marry until age forty-two, I’ve seen many of my beloved single friends make choices regarding dating and marriage they later came to regret. It’s my hope that the heartache experienced by many single women will be averted because of the wisdom Deepak offers in this book. Whether you’re a single woman or not, you’ll find this book is for you—because it’s all about being grounded in Christ.

—Amy Baker, Ministry Resource Director, Faith Church; Counselor at Faith Biblical Counseling Ministries; author of Picture Perfect and Getting to the Heart of Friendships

Deepak has written a much-needed word to single women which is full of biblical truth and wisdom. His wealth of experience has given him the ability to write with understanding and conviction as he encourages young women to pursue Christ, patiently trust God’s plan, and depend on his grace while they wait on him. I highly recommend this book full of prudent warnings, poignant examples and godly counsel to single women.

—David and Sally Michael, Cofounder of Children Desiring God

Dr. Reju has turned the topic of dating on its head with this insightful and thoughtful look at who not to marry. As a seasoned counselor and brother in Christ, he walks single Christian women through a methodical process of considering the dangers of settling. Using compelling case studies, Deepak carefully leads them to consider many biblical factors that are sometimes swept away as insignificant while encouraging smart women to be patient in waiting for God’s best.

—Mary K. Mohler, President’s Wife, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary; Director of Seminary Wives Institute

Product Details

• Title: She's Got the Wrong Guy
• Author: Deepak Reju
• Publisher: New Growth Press
• Print Publication Date: 2017
• Pages: 177
• Language: English
• Resources: 1
• Format: Digital › Logos Reader Edition
• ISBNs: 9781945270093, 1945270098
• Resource ID: LLS:SHESGOTWRONGGUY
• Resource Type: Monograph
• Metadata Last Updated: 2024-10-12T01:09:45Z

About Deepak Reju

Deepak Reju, MDiv, PhD, serves as senior pastor at Ogletown Baptist Church in Newark, Delaware, as well as president for the board of directors of the Biblical Counseling Coalition. He is the author of several books and articles, including Great Kings of the Bible: How Jesus Is Greater than Saul, David and Solomon, The Pastor and Counseling, and On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse at Church. Deepak and his wife Sarah have been married since 2001 and have five children.