I Want Him to Want Me: How to Respond When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex
Ebook
Do you want sexual intimacy with your husband more than he does?
In a society that often paints men as the sole pursuers of sexual desire, countless wives silently struggle with unmet needs and unanswered questions. Many women have carried the weight of shame and confusion, longing for connection while feeling rejected by their husbands.
Licensed clinical professional counselor Sheri Mueller shares valuable insights into the underlying dynamics at play in such situations. She delves into the complex emotional and psychological factors that contribute to husbands turning away from their wives, dispelling misconceptions and offering a fresh perspective on these delicate issues.
Discover:
- the truth about intimacy struggles and why a husband might turn away;
- communication strategies about a woman’s sexual needs and desires;
- practical steps to foster an atmosphere of trust, vulnerability, and mutual understanding;
- self-care techniques to boost self-esteem and cultivate a positive body image; and
- exercises and activities to revive sexual passion.
I Want Him to Want Me challenges traditional assumptions and provides women with tools to reclaim their sexual agency, rebuild intimacy, and find healing within their marriages.
“What is wrong with me?” As a marriage coach, I’ve heard way too many women ask that question as they try to figure out how to navigate the reality that they have a higher sexual desire than their spouse. This is a book of hope and help that is desperately needed.
Sheri Mueller speaks candidly and compassionately to women feeling the shame and rejection of living with a sexually disinterested husband. While challenging faith- and gender-based stereotypes about sexual appetites, she examines the physical and emotional struggles that commonly diminish a man’s libido. For wives longing for reassurance, answers, and a way back to intimacy—this book is for you!
I Want Him to Want Me is not only a great title—it is a much-needed book! Sheri Mueller understands and defines the problem experienced by the woman who is married to a low-desire man. Sheri not only helps women in this situation feel understood but also identifies what it’s like to be a woman who wants to be wanted—and what not to do that can exacerbate the problem! This is a very helpful resource for women in this situation. It’s also helpful if you’re a therapist working with those who feel misunderstood by so many messages that address the opposite issue: wives who struggle with a sexually demanding husband.
This book is a raw, honest, and practical guide to help wives navigate one of the most painful and confusing disappointments in marriage. For the millions of women who are suffering in secret, I Want Him to Want Me can be a God-given lifeline of hope.
If you’re one of the around 30 percent of wives with a higher sexual desire than their husbands, I Want Him to Want Me will help you feel less crazy. Sheri Mueller writes from a heart that has wrestled with this very question and from the experience of ministering to numerous other women with the same frustrations. She helps you own your own stuff and honor your desires while learning to respond to your husband in ways that can foster connection and intimacy.
To women in this situation: You are not alone! I Want Him to Want Me is a biblical and practical lifeline. Sheri Mueller is a kind, compassionate, and skilled counselor—one who tackles an ever-growing and often-overwhelming issue in a way that brings healing to individual hearts and new life to a marriage.
Sheri Mueller does a great job writing on a topic rarely discussed by Christian authors. Her book acknowledges the complexity of addressing sexual-desire issues when it’s the husband who shows little to no interest in having sex with his wife. I Want Him to Want Me is realistic and encouraging, and it includes numerous helpful resources for women often overlooked in books about sex. Highly recommended!
Sheri Mueller boldly addresses sexless marriages—not just the stereotypical perspective of a husband’s needs, but a wife’s desire for physical intimacy. Men joke about wishing their women were more sexually available, but women are made to feel shame if they are being neglected sexually. Addressing this secret from a woman’s perspective is refreshing. This book offers both hope and practical solutions.
The issue that’s unpacked in this book—a husband who is not interested in or willing to have sex with his wife (or is less interested than she is)—is not as uncommon as one might think. I Want Him to Want Me is a thoughtful and hopeful resource from a seasoned counselor who understands the pain—and all-too-frequent self-blame—of a wife who faces this issue and is seeking understanding and solutions.
There are few resources currently addressing this specific challenge in a couple’s sex life, and Sheri Mueller’s handling of this topic is a true service to readers. I Want Him to Want Me dispels shame and offers affirming words, grace, and hope to the woman seeking help in the journey of intimacy with her husband.
- Title: I Want Him to Want Me: How to Respond When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex
- Author: Sheri Mueller
- Publisher: Focus on the Family
- Print Publication Date: 2024
- Logos Release Date: 2023
- Language: English
- Resources: 1
- Format: Digital › Ebook
- ISBNs: 9781684285006, 9781646070770, 1646070771, 1684285003
- Resource ID: LLS:9781684285006
- Resource Type: Monograph
- Metadata Last Updated: 2024-07-30T08:29:37Z