Ebook
What if differences could strengthen your personal connections instead of frustrating them?
Discover how God designed us uniquely to connect, grow, and thrive together—even through our differences. Connecting Across Differences explores how God designed us with unique differences and how this can strengthen our personal and professional relationships when approached with empathy and grace. Using biblical wisdom and practical tools, James Borishade invites readers into a journey of self-discovery, relational growth, and healing through faith-based principles. He gives readers the tools needed to navigate conflicts and build deeper, more fulfilling connections in family, work, and beyond.
Connecting Across Differences is a guide for fostering meaningful relationships in all areas of life, from friendships to work relationships to marriage and more. Rooted in the Bible, this book provides actionable advice that helps our differences strengthen our bonds rather than divide us. Whether you are seeking to grow personally, overcome challenging relational situations, or improve workplace dynamics, you’ll be equipped with a road map for better communication.
Key Features:
Connecting Across Differences reminds us that God designed our individuality not to separate us but to bring us together. This book is a treasure for Christians seeking to strengthen their connections with others while growing in empathy, grace, and understanding. Begin the transformation toward more meaningful communication and better relationships today!
Introduction
1. What if There’s Nothing Wrong with You?
2. Designed to Be Different: A Look at Creation
3. Embracing the People Who Drive You Crazy
4. When Behavior Is Really Biography
5. From Cold Wars to Close Hearts
6. The Anatomy of Disconnection
7. Why We Love the Way We Do
8. The Roots Beneath the Reaction: Parenting Styles and Emotional Triggers
9. Why We Reach, Why We Run: Attachment Styles and the Dance of Connection
10. Making it Work: Tools for Real-Life Connection
Acknowledgements
Recommended Resources
Notes
"James Borishade writes with the honesty of one who has walked through brokenness and the hope of one who has discovered God’s design for connection. He weaves Scripture, life lessons, and leadership insights into a compelling guide for building stronger relationships. James reminds us that our differences are not problems to solve but gifts to embrace—threads in God’s divine tapestry. I have seen James live this message as CEO of Circle Urban Ministries and as a friend. His words carry authenticity and practical wisdom that will bless every reader."
"James Borishade’s book is a gift. With wisdom, compassion, and grounded tools, Connecting Across Differences helps us move beyond defensiveness and disconnection. It shows us how to deeply listen, speak honestly, and stay present—even when it’s hard. A must-read for anyone committed to growing relationships at home and work."
"In a sea of self-help books, this one stands out because it places self-awareness in service of healthy relationships. With humility and grace, James Borishade combines sound biblical theology, academic insights, practical examples, and a wealth of hard-won wisdom. What a great book for couples, small group studies, and anyone open to growth!"