The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended
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What if the way Christians talk about sex actually makes it worse?
Based on a groundbreaking in-depth survey of over twenty thousand women, The Great Sex Rescue pulls back the curtain on what is happening in Christian bedrooms and exposes the problematic evangelical teachings that wreck sex for so many couples--while pointing couples to what they should have been told all along.
Experience the relief of knowing that you are not broken! Elusive pleasure, mismatched desires, perpetual sexual temptation--that doesn’t need to be your story any longer. This book will help you
● discover what’s holding back your sex life
● replace harmful teachings with ones focused on freedom, passion, and love
● move forward with check-in questions, practical applications, and reframing exercises
● find the abundant life Jesus wants for you
The Great Sex Rescue is a long overdue corrective to church culture, helping couples awaken the kind of intimacy and passion God intended.
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What if the way Christians talk about sex actually makes it worse?
Based on a groundbreaking in-depth survey of over twenty thousand women, The Great Sex Rescue pulls back the curtain on what is happening in Christian bedrooms and exposes the problematic evangelical teachings that wreck sex for so many couples--while pointing couples to what they should have been told all along.
Experience the relief of knowing that you are not broken! Elusive pleasure, mismatched desires, perpetual sexual temptation--that doesn’t need to be your story any longer.
The Great Sex Rescue is a long overdue corrective to church culture, helping couples awaken the kind of intimacy and passion God intended.
"A groundbreaking look into what true, sacred biblical sexuality is intended to be. A must-read."--Rachael Denhollander, gymnast, victim advocate, and author of What Is a Girl Worth?
"This book is desperately needed in this moment."--Kristin Kobes Du Mez, author of Jesus and John Wayne
"The authentic gut punch that the evangelical community needs."--Andrew J. Bauman, LMHC, cofounder and director of the Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma
- Title: The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended
- Authors: Sheila Wray Gregoire, Joanna Sawatsky, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach
- Publisher: Baker
- Print Publication Date: 2021
- Logos Release Date: 2020
- Pages: 272
- Language: English
- Resources: 1
- Format: Digital › Ebook
- ISBNs: 9781493428809, 9781540900821, 1540900827, 1493428802
- Resource ID: LLS:9781493428809
- Resource Type: Monograph
- Metadata Last Updated: 2025-06-13T16:38:20Z
Sheila Wray Gregoire is the face behind ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com. A sought-after speaker, she's also an award-winning author of nine books, including The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex.
Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach is a psychology graduate, podcaster, and author of Why I Didn't Rebel.
Joanna Sawatsky has a master's degree in public health and is a trained microbiologist, epidemiologist, and biostatistician.
Reviews
3 ratings
Jonathan Brown
12/18/2023
A necessary read for all couples. Should be required reading for premarital counseling. My wife and I read it together earlier this year. We didn't have any of the hang-ups or issues addressed herein, but we know so many couples who do have such struggles that would benefit greatly from this work.Alex Stadler
8/3/2023
A very well written book with important content. A worthy read for anyone married, anyone who wants to be married, or who gives counsel to couples.
Lois E
3/2/2021
This book is FANTASTIC and revolutionary. Sheila NAILS it, repeatedly, all over the place. I cannot recommend it highly enough for undoing all the terrible things we were taught about sex! It’s like when we were first married, I was handed a lovely little box of beliefs, neatly packaged up in popular evangelical books. They said if I followed these beliefs, I would be the wife God wanted me to be and my husband would be happy and this was the perfect recipe for marital bliss. Well guess what? These beliefs can actually lead to pain, abuse, enabling addiction, stripping away personhood from women, viewing men as powerless to their urges, and basically just overall literal DISASTER. In The Great Sex Rescue, Sheila, Rebecca & Joanna literally come to the Rescue and throw back the covers on all the mess: -Lies we’ve been fed in the most popular Christian sex & marriage books are uncovered, and exposed for what they are -The insanity of those beliefs and the broken logic that backfires horribly in marriage is called out -Abuse is shown to be abuse instead of being excused continually -Addiction is called what it is instead of being enabled, and they urge you to seek professional help -Women are called people, deserving of care and basic human kindness. Women are spoken of as being worthy and valued, not merely objects to be used. -Men are called to be the men that Jesus sees them as and can empower them to be, not helpless -Men & women are pointed to Jesus instead of formulas that stereotype and paralyze us This book is for you if: -you’ve ever read the popular Christian marriage books and they’ve sat wrong and you felt more hopeless afterward, like you were broken -you feel like you are merely an object in your marriage -you don’t enjoy sex or think that your body “just doesn’t work how it should” -if you have pain in sex -you believe that if you just try harder in your marriage, it will be better. If you give more sex, more happily, more enthusiastically, it will improve and he will be happier If any of these resound with you, please snatch up this book as fast as you can!!! Maybe you will find that you were building on a broken foundation and no amount of fixing would ever produce the result you are looking for. But there’s a better way. There’s hope for something better. There’s hope for freedom and togetherness and mutuality and safety and pleasure and love where BOTH individuals matter and are allowed to have a say and be able to give willingly. A few quotes: -“Women are given a beautiful picture of shame-free, passionate sex but then are bombarded by dangerous teaching rampant in these same books: it’s her duty to give him sex when he asks, regardless of how she feels; sex is something he will take from her because he needs it so badly; all men lust, so she needs to do her part if she wants her husband to stay faithful. Our theology of sex has to go beyond the creation story in Genesis, of being naked and not ashamed, and encompass so much more.” -“When you are repeatedly told that you are not allowed to say no to sex and that what you need is less important than what your spouse needs, that is a deep rejection of you as a person.” -“We needed to give people explicit permission to reject the aspect of the evangelical zeitgeist [beliefs] that were holding them back” -“It is perfectly reasonable for a woman to expect her husband to live out his wedding vows. She isn’t being selfish. She isn’t failing to understand what it is to be a guy. She is standing on biblical principles.” -“Not being able to look at a woman treats women like threats rather than people. And what do you do with threats? You neutralize them…Well, people treat lust the same – just get rid of the woman! Or at least tell them to cover up…. The irony is that by equating attraction with lust, we’ve boiled women down to their bodies, whether a man is avoiding her completely or lusting about her…. The key to defeating lust is not to avoid looking at women; it’s to actually see them.” -“God does not blame women for causing men to sin simply by existing” -“You don’t build a great sex life by telling a woman that unless she becomes wholly available to her husband in such a vulnerable way, he will betray her by turning to pornography.” -“Your experience matters. God gave you discernment. You’re allowed to use it. When you read something or hear something, you don’t need to believe it just because it came from a Christian leader. Look for Jesus in what they are saying, and if He is not there, discard it.” I believe that in The Great Sex Rescue, Sheila, Joanna & Rebecca will bring light and hope to countless marriages where pain and defeat currently rule.
