God does not intend for marriage to be a place of oppression. Providing practical tools and exercises, biblical counselor Darby Strickland prepares potential helpers to pick up on cues that could point to abuse and investigate them wisely. You will learn how to identify a range of abusive behavior and better understand the impact of abuse on victims—particularly wives. Ultimately, you will become equipped to provide wise and Christ-centered counsel while navigating a difficult and complex situation.
In a day too often filled with rhetoric and finger-pointing Darby gives us a book filled with gracious, biblical, and practical counsel for how to effectively care for women in our churches who are suffering abuse. She offers biblical hope for the abused as well as practical help for the counselor as she shares insights, cautions, stories and specific ques-tions that can help us love and lead these ‘bruise reeds’ to a place of new hope.
—Brad Bigney, Lead Pastor at Grace Fellowship Church
Is it Abuse is a stunning work. It is brave without being incendiary. It is carefully and thoroughly biblical. It is relentlessly practical. Yet Strick-land also steadfastly avoids the traps of oversimplifying either the problem or the solution. Speaking from a wealth of experience, this book is for oppressed spouses, the spouses who are harming them, and those trying to intervene redemptively in abusive marriages on behalf of Christ. If you ever read a book about abuse in couples, let it be this one.
—Alasdair Groves, Executive Director
Darby has served the church well by answering what seems like it would be a straightforward question: Is It Abuse? But if you’ve experienced abuse or walked alongside someone who is experiencing abuse, you know a fog of confusion surrounds this question. Don’t wait for a crisis near you to read this book. If you read this book before you need it, you will be grateful... and so will the person who is reaching out to you for guidance.
—Brad Hambrick, Pastor of Counseling at The Summit Church and general editor for Becoming a Church That Cares Well for the Abused
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Darby A. Strickland counsels and teaches at CCEF. She is a contributor to Becoming a Church That Cares Well for the Abused and author of two booklets, Domestic Abuse: Recognize, Respond, Rescue and Domestic Abuse: Help for the Sufferer.