Not Yet Married: The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating
Ebook
Overview
Life Is Never Mainly About Love and Marriage. So Learn to Live and Date for More.
Many of you grew up assuming that marriage would meet all of your needs and unlock God’s purposes for you. But God has far more planned for you than your future marriage. Not Yet Married is not about waiting quietly in the corner of the world for God to bring you “the one," but about inspiring you to live and date for more now.
If you follow Jesus, the search for a spouse is no longer a pursuit of the perfect person, but a pursuit of more of God. He will likely write a love story for you different than the one you would write for yourself, but that’s because he loves you and knows how to write a better story. This book was written to help you find real hope, happiness, and purpose in your not-yet-married life.
Top Highlights
“All work is God’s work—prepared by him, carried out by faith in him, and done before him and for him. The accountant’s bookkeeping, the developer’s programming, and the mother’s lunch making are works from God, planned by him long before our first day on the job. All our good works, on and off the clock, were prepared for us in order that we would walk in them (Eph. 2:10).” (source)
“Paul calls the Christian life a fight and a race (2 Tim. 4:7). It can be hard, and it may hurt along the way, but we’ll never regret it. Jesus may ask a lot of us between here and heaven, but whether we ever get married or not, he will give it all back a hundredfold and more (Matt. 19:29).” (source)
“Every joy here carries some kind of empty, unsatisfying aftertaste. Wrapped up with that desire to be happy is a desire to be known and loved. Our life was formed and given to us to be shared. We are all designed for relationship, regardless of whether we’re married.” (source)
“is about commission, not just salvation, because we’re not saved to be saved, but saved to be sent” (source)
“I began each new relationship under the banner of ‘my pursuit of marriage,’ but much of it was really just my pursuit of me. I loved the idea of marriage, because I thought marriage would fill and complete me. But because I was looking for love, happiness, and significance mainly in marriage, singleness turned into a nightmare some days. Singleness felt lonely, waiting for someone to come into my life and never leave again. Singleness felt incomplete, wondering if God would bring my other half or fill the massive, glaring hole in my life (at least it looked massive and glaring in the mirror).” (source)
Product Details
- Title : Not Yet Married: The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating
- Author: Segal, Marshall
- Publisher: Crossway
- Publication Date: 2017
- ISBN: 9781433555480
Marshall Segal (MDiv, Bethlehem College & Seminary) is president and CEO of Desiring God. He serves as a deacon at Cities Church in St. Paul, Minnesota.