For nearly 30 years, the Journal of Biblical Counseling (previously the Journal of Pastoral Practice) of CCEF (the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation) has provided a forum for biblical counseling’s development and application. The journal’s mission is to develop clear thinking and effective practice in biblical counseling through articles that faithfully bring the God of truth, mercy, and power to the issues faced by ministries of counseling and discipleship.
“Would-be counselors of the violent are not the sinless coming to the sinful. We are finders of grace coming to those who need grace.” (Page 53)
“But a way to love the perpetrator is to clearly portray his sin and its consequences. Minimizing or ignoring—for either party—can be spiritually deadly. Such confrontation should be done in the presence of another.” (Page 52)
“Expect to encounter self-deceived versions of ‘confession and repentance” (Page 54)
“Undergirding the violent act is a pervasive selfishness:” (Page 54)
“Forgive quickly, but don’t allow the perpetrator’s request for forgiveness to be the end of the discussion. Reconciliation begins when the perpetrator asks for forgiveness. In situations when there has been an outbreak of violence, this violence uncovers a larger pattern of demandingness, control, and arrogance. Such patterns should never by swept away with the words, ‘Will you forgive me?’ The flesh and the devil thrive when hurts and sins are kept in the dark. Because this is so, one way a wife can love is to let her husband know the consequences of his sin in her life. This is not done to hurt; it is done to heal.” (Pages 52–53)