It’s Okay to Cry: Finding Hope When Struggling with Infertility and Miscarriage
Overview
Many couples live with the ache of not being able to have children. Malcolm and Nick Cameron are writing from such a background themselves. This book tells of their struggles as they coped with years of infertility and will take you through the story of their miscarriage and the task of piecing their lives back to together afterwards. Throughout their ups and downs, and amidst the heartache, Malcolm and Nick have been carried through by God, and emerged on the other side stronger than before. This book will help you whether you are going through a similar situation or if you have a friend or family member that is facing the heartache of longing for, or losing, a baby.
As Christians, too often we are unwilling to share our experiences with others, not realizing that there are countless couples in the same position, longing for a child, confused by questions like "Why them?". Here Malcolm and Nick Cameron have produced an honest and real account of their experience. They do not claim to have the answers as to how you should deal with infertility or miscarriage, but they can point you to the one who does, our Heavenly Father who never leaves us, and draws alongside us in our times of sorrow and pain and is there to pick us up when ever we fall.
Top Highlights
“It is still not easy. We still struggle. We still cry. We sometimes still feel angry. We still hurt. We still battle. We still ache and we still cry again. But in all those ‘stills’ we also still know that our God reigns, that He is still sovereign, that He can still be trusted, that He is still in control, that He still loves us, that He still promises good things for those He loves and that when we are broken He still knows.” (Pages 184–185)
“So here is the ‘Nick Cameron version’ of Habakkuk’s prayer: ‘Though conception never seems to happen, though my dreams and plans have repeatedly ended in disappointment, though after years my husband and I are still childless, though the heartache still remains and the tears flow, though I wish things would change and they don’t, though we never got to see our child, even though at times I hurt so deeply yet I will rejoice in the Lord, I will be joyful in God my Saviour.” (Pages 122–123)
“I was struck by the repetition of this: in Psalm 145:14 it says, ‘The Lord upholds all those who fall and lifts up all who are bowed down.’ In Psalm 146:8 it says, ‘the Lord gives sight to the blind, the Lord lifts up those who are bowed down, the Lord loves the righteous.’” (Page 170)
“So often as Christians we think that we should be able to manage alone, to just work through things with God. We actually need others. We are a people who need encouragement, hugs and sometimes people to come alongside and correct us.” (Pages 167–168)
“‘The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.’” (Page 149)
Praise for the Print Edition
This book is summed up for me in the words, "I am classed by the medical profession as infertile, I am classed by society as childless, I am classed by God as a daughter—a son, an heir, precious, treasured, dearly loved." Here is a moving and startlingly real account of one couple's struggle with deep pain and disappointment, and of the faith on which they draw to see them through. It is written for the sake of other couples like them and deserves to be widely recommended.
—Dr. N. G. Wright Principal, Spurgeon's College, London
Product Details
- Title: It's Ok to Cry
- Authors: Malcolm and Nick Cameron
- Publisher: Christian Focus Publications
- Publication Date: 2005
- Pages: 208