When the Vow Breaks: A Survival and Recovery Guide for Christians Facing Divorce

by Joseph Knishkern

Publisher:

B&H

, 1993

Overview

Maybe your marriage is finished—but God isn’t. Contrary as it is to God’s ideal, and hard as it is for many Christians to accept, divorce is a harsh and potentially devastating reality. What can you do as a Christian when facing your own divorce? Or how can you help someone else who’s going through one? When the Vow Breaks is a valuable resource, written by a Christian who has lived through an unwanted divorce himself.

With its extensive bibliography and other useful aids, such as sample financial settlement statements and legal correspondence, When the Vow Breaks is a must for anyone facing or recovering from the breakup of marriage.

Key Features

In this sensitive yet extremely comprehensive guide—revised and updated after many years of ministering hope to thousands—attorney Joseph Warren Kniskern describes the emotional aspects of his own failed marriage, while also providing a thorough study of what the Bible says about marriage, divorce, and remarriage. More importantly, he shows how God can and does continue to work in people’s lives, even in the aftermath of divorce. In When the Vow Breaks, you’ll discover a wealth of professional insight, including:

• How to seek reconciliation
• Locating proper counseling
• Considering separation
• Finding a good attorney
• Negotiating settlements and custody issues

Contents

Top Highlights

“Every marriage is tested. That is where real love begins and romance heads for the exit. Love digs in deep and accepts the person while dealing firmly with the circumstances. It is grounded in an irrevocable commitment. Love says, ‘I am with you to the end.’ Romance falters when flexibility or endurance is required. The cruel barb of accepting the romance lie is that we cannot accept our spouses for who they are, but quickly reject them when they fail to meet our flawed expectations.” (Page 10)

“To let go is to permit former mates to face reality, not to protect them. In using tough love, we allow others to make mistakes. They must have this freedom to affect their own destinies without unwelcomed interference from us. Let them learn. Do not soften the blow of consequences flowing from any bad decisions.” (Page 261)

“If a marriage is scripturally broken, or death of a spouse occurs, God permits (not requires) remarriage to others. This is a concession—not a command. It flows from God’s gracious nature. He calls all people to lives of peace—not discord and strife. Those faithful to Him have a chance for a new life.” (Page 101)

“The non-initiator’s weaknesses become more noticeable and irritating. The marriage may have many positive qualities and satisfactions, but the initiator focuses on the negatives.” (Page 13)

“Remember Paul’s encouragement from his jail cell in Philippians 4:6–7?” (Page 123)

Product Details

• Title: When the Vow Breaks: A Survival and Recovery Guide for Christians Facing Divorce
• Author: Joseph Warren Kniskern
• Publisher: B&H Publishing Group
• Publication Date: 2008
• Pages: 375

About Joseph Knishkern

Joseph Warren Kniskern is an attorney with more than thirty-two years of experience who has based his approach to legal issues solidly on Scripture throughout his career. He is affiliated with the Christian Legal Society and has been cited in Who’s Who in American Law. He is also author of Making a New Vow: A Christian Guide to Remarriage and Blending Families and currently resides with his wife, Cheryl, and their son Chase in Raleigh, North Carolina.